by Barnabas | Mar 19, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
The longer I have this website and try my best to care for and help other men, the more I realize the importance of making a distinction between a harmful sexual addiction and an unwanted sexual orientation. The two are very different things, and yet I would like to...
by Barnabas | Feb 21, 2024 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing |
Written by JH In regards to sin of any kind, many people ask the question “How far is too far?” I remember this being a question asked growing up in regards to sex. How far can I go and still be good spiritually? How far can I go and still be a virgin? I think...
by Barnabas | Jan 30, 2024 | Addiction, Dealing with Failures, Guest Posts |
Written by Jack In the fight with addiction, I tend to focus on my failures and not give God thanks for the many successes that I have. If I slip up, I can get frustrated or disheartened. But God calls us to focus on his blessings. Whenever the tribes of Israel...
by Barnabas | Dec 19, 2023 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Suffering, Temptations |
Written by Simon I’ve been working through some key ideas I’ve considered these past 14 months in my efforts to stay sober and continue to walk out of the CD darkness. Several of them come from the book Unwanted by Jay Stringer where he makes the...
by Barnabas | Nov 22, 2023 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure |
Written by Jack: A lot of people look at cross dressing as harmless. It is fun. It doesn’t hurt them. As Christians we can see that it is disordered and spiritually it can separate us from God. But how about physical damage? It really can’t be harmful to...
by Barnabas | Oct 27, 2023 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Guest Posts |
By Jack: You can’t do recovery alone. I have never heard of a program that says, don’t talk to anyone. Don’t tell anyone about your journey. I think most people accept this. However, many people think when we go on a journey to find God we should strike out...
by Barnabas | Oct 3, 2023 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity |
Written by NHA ADDICTION, PART 1: “You’re an addict,” said my daughter, with a mischievous smile. I shuttered. Does she know? I played innocent. “An addict? Yeah right. Of what?” “Chocolate. You couldn’t go a day...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2023 | Addiction, Guest Posts, Prayer |
Written by Jack C.S. Lewis wrote, “Enemy-occupied territory — that is what this world is. Christianity is the story of how the rightful king has landed, you might say landed in disguise, and is calling us all to take part in a great campaign of...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2023 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Most of my posts on this website are written from my Christian perspective on crossdressing, but sometimes it is helpful to delve into what secular researchers and psychiatrists have discovered about crossdressing. I’d like to share here an article written by...
by Barnabas | Apr 28, 2023 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Testimonies |
Written by Simon: While I finished reading “Breaking Free” several months back, several fundamental ideas that speak to my CD life for all these years still resonate and are useful in my ongoing recovery. In this post I want to reflect on some lies...
by Barnabas | Apr 3, 2023 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Dealing with Failures, Guest Posts |
Written by Jack: How many times have you heard this? You can’t quit crossdressing. It’s who you are. Don’t waste your time, embrace it. My addiction to dressing led me to spend a lot of time online talking with other CDs and this was a constant theme. I...
by Barnabas | Mar 13, 2023 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan: Last time we looked at the relationship between relapse and hope. I discussed how there is hope in what we can learn from them. Hope can inspire, hope can drive us, hope can motivate and fill us with a good urge to act. To do something! The...
by Barnabas | Jan 24, 2023 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Guest Posts |
By Ewan Since my last post about relapse, I stated that we need to be very aware that they could happen. This might not sound like good news, because when we are healing we want to keep moving forward. Saying that a relapse could happen does not sound very...
by Barnabas | Dec 23, 2022 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Testimonies |
Written by Jack God can use our weakness and struggles to bring us closer to him. I have been reflecting on where I am in my journey with cross dressing. At first I felt like I had totally backslid and reached new lows in my addiction over the past year...
by Barnabas | Nov 30, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure |
Earlier this year I tried to do some informal research through a survey with ex-crossdressers in this community, both Christian and non-Christian. My sample size is very small, so I realize the results are not able to hold up to scientific scrutiny. Nevertheless, the...
by Barnabas | Nov 11, 2022 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires |
Written by Simon: I recently started Christian counseling about my sexual brokenness and have begun reading through Breaking Free by Russell Willingham. As is also true for many of those I’ve talked to, this issue has been with us since our youth and...
by Barnabas | Oct 19, 2022 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Masturbation |
Written by William When I decided to take the SAST test the first time, I was curious to find out how much I was thinking about sex and how much it was consuming my time. It was obvious that I had an obsession and the test showed that I am a sex addict....
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2022 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
Over the years I have read extensively about crossdressing and talked with many crossdressers, and have found that there is great diversity among crossdressers, especially in regard to the various reasons that crossdressers engage in crossdressing. There are so many...
by Barnabas | Apr 13, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Identity, Testimonies, Transgender |
By Justin One of my most vivid memories as a pubescent boy struggling with gender dysphoria was being alone at night laying in my bed and being so upset with that fact that I had been born a boy. I wished so hard many nights that I would wake up and my life...
by Barnabas | Mar 14, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
A friend recommended to me the book – “Living with a Transvestite: A Phenomenological Study of Wives and Committed Partners of Transvestite” by Heather Christine Freegard. It is free to download, so any of you can read it! All in all it was a book...
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