How to Live as a Man and as Myself?

How to Live as a Man and as Myself?

For those in our community who have given up crossdressing or who are trying to heal from gender dysphoria, one of the common questions asked is: “what does it look like for me to live as a man?” It’s straightforward to say that we should stop...

The Toughest Time in History

Many of us today might feel like we are stuck in the worst period of history given our particular struggles. At no time in history have crossdressing and transgenderism been more accepted and celebrated than they are today. Even many people who don’t experience gender...

Definitions of terms and labels

Definition of Terms The first thing to note is that these terms are defined differently by different people. Furthermore, as our culture is changing, these terms are changing in their definitions. To make matters even more complicated, as culture changes some of these...
Book Recommendation – Love Thy Body

Book Recommendation – Love Thy Body

I would like to recommend the book Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey. You could read some good book reviews here and here. Although there is only one chapter on transgender issues, the whole book is very important. Pearcey gives a very clear and strong critique of the...
Race and Transgender Issues

Race and Transgender Issues

In our culture the common belief is that people can be whoever they want to be. We craft our own identity and what matters is our heart, not physical reality. Of course, as Christians, we reject this idea. It is not we who make our own identities, but we are given our...

Book Recommendation – The Man Who Would Be Queen

I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
Book Recommendation – When Harry Became Sally

Book Recommendation – When Harry Became Sally

I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...
Integration and Contentment

Integration and Contentment

This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
Book Recommendation – Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

Book Recommendation – Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

One of the most helpful books I’ve read on the topic of what it means to be a man or woman is the book – “Biblical Foundations for Manhood and Womanhood.” I want to recommend it to all of you. If you click on the link you can read it for free. It’s by Wayne Grudem as...

Paper on Sex Reassignment Surgery

I read this article – The Psychopathology of “Sex Reassignment” Surgery: Assessing Its Medical, Psychological, and Ethical Appropriateness. You have to download it as a pdf. It is written by Richard P. Fitzgibbons, M.D., Philip M. Sutton, and Dale O’Leary. This...
Lifting Weights and becoming muscular

Lifting Weights and becoming muscular

I want to suggest a very practical tip in your healing from crossdressing addiction. Simply put, I suggest you take time to exercise, get in shape, and lift weights. It has been really helpful for me to lift weights and do pushups and other exercises that tone and...
Intersexual Conditions – There is still a Binary

Intersexual Conditions – There is still a Binary

The occurrence of people born with bodies that have some biological male traits and some biological female traits have led many people in our mainstream culture to reject not only a gender binary but also a sexual binary. It is common to hear people argue that we are...
12 Steps to Stop Crossdressing

12 Steps to Stop Crossdressing

I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping crossdressing altogether is a long process, and...
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made – Psalm 139

1 Corinthians 11:2-16 Prohibits Crossdressing

Short Synopsis of entire post I believe that 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 indirectly, but clearly, prohibits crossdressing for Christians. (From the New International Version) 2 I praise you for remembering me in everything and for holding to the traditions just as I passed...

Crossdressing is about Envy

Pondering the nature of crossdressing desires over the years made me convinced that a significant component of crossdressing is envy or coveting. I think crossdressing is sinful and harmful for many reasons, from its deceptive nature, to its addictive destructive...