Book Recommendation: Transvestites and Transsexuals

I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...

The Toughest Time in History

Many of us today might feel like we are stuck in the worst period of history given our particular struggles. At no time in history have crossdressing and transgenderism been more accepted and celebrated than they are today. Even many people who don’t experience gender...
Church’s Response to Homosexuality, Crossdressing, Transsexualism

Church’s Response to Homosexuality, Crossdressing, Transsexualism

In this post I will make some general observations about how the church should respond and deal with hard issues like homosexuality, crossdressing, and transsexualism. But more importantly, this post is about how the church should respond to the people struggling with...
Giving Pastoral Care to a Crossdresser or Transgendered Person

Giving Pastoral Care to a Crossdresser or Transgendered Person

I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
Lessons for us from King David

Lessons for us from King David

In 2 Samuel chapters 11-12, we read the story of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. And then, to cover up his sin, he found a way to have Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, killed. Finally, God sent the prophet Nathan to challenge and rebuke David. In the end,...

Get an Accountability Partner

Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this blog, but you need to find an accountability partner! In this post I want to talk about the merits of having an accountability...
How do I tell my wife, a friend, or a pastor about my crossdressing?

How do I tell my wife, a friend, or a pastor about my crossdressing?

I have told quite a number of people in my life about my crossdressing addiction, both professionals, and also close family and friends. So I’d like to share some wisdom about how to best do this and some general tips. In every case of telling someone, things...

Imagine your wife crossdressed

I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
Integration and Contentment

Integration and Contentment

This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
Book Recommendation – Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

Book Recommendation – Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

One of the most helpful books I’ve read on the topic of what it means to be a man or woman is the book – “Biblical Foundations for Manhood and Womanhood.” I want to recommend it to all of you. If you click on the link you can read it for free. It’s by Wayne Grudem as...

How Satan tempts us to crossdress

Recently I listened to this free sermon online by Pastor Tim Keller. It was a powerful message for any Christian, but for me when thinking about crossdressing it was especially insightful. I highly recommend it – Spiritual Warfare by Tim Keller. If the links do...

Suicide among transsexuals and crossdressers

This research study (pdf) is important to read – Suicide Attempts among Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Adults. The study was not perfect nor were its research methodologies (as noted even in the report itself). But really, what study is perfect? This...