by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
I have to admit that when I think about crossdressing, I can come up with certain good qualities about it. This may surprise you to hear me say this. But it’s true. And these good qualities were often the things that tripped me up and got me to rationalize...
by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Testimonies, Transgender |
For those of you wives looking for some help in dealing with your husband’s crossdressing or gender confusion, you could check out this book by Gae Hall – “He can never be she.” It is also on Kindle as an e-book. It also could be helpful to...
by Barnabas | Jun 20, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Suffering |
As I think about all the hurt and suffering in marriages I hear about from the community at this website, from both men and women, I would like to recommend the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. It will be helpful to read for anyone who is both married and a...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I am frustrated with myself and other crossdressers for expecting or even ever once having a hope for our wives to act as lesbians. If you are a Christian and believe homosexual behavior is sinful, than trying to get your wife to act this way with you (while you are...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
It’s easy to assume that our crossdressing is mostly sexual, but there are a whole host of other reasons why we do it. We need to examine our underlying reasons, the hidden motivations that brought about crossdressing in our lives in the first place. We all have...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to share a great idea. If you want to limit your crossdressing, both your actual practice, and your temptations, then grow a beard or a mustache. Here are a few of my thoughts. On the one hand, having a beard or mustache seems like a stereotypically manly thing...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Dreams have been one of the biggest problems I have had over the years in giving up crossdressing and trying to keep from fantasizing about it. I know I am not alone. If you are like me, you can go months without thinking about crossdressing during the day, but then...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Suffering, Transgender |
I found an interesting resource, an Armenian medical network encyclopedia section on transvestism. The section is called – Transvestism and Gender Identity Disorder in Adults. Prepare yourself for a lot of reading! Notice that the link I gave is only page 1 of...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This is a pretty graphic topic, but it seems practical enough for me to talk about, because dealing with these issues is a reality for most of us. First of all, if you want my thoughts on masturbation, see my long post on it here. I’ll try not to repeat myself...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
By lust I mean a strong sexual desire and craving, which can of course be sinful as Jesus talks about. But I’m using the word lust in a more neutral way, as basically strong sexual desire and pleasure. When we strongly desire our wives and have sexual pleasure...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Whew, this is a heavy and personal topic, but I think it needs to be addressed. Is masturbation okay for a Christian? Or is it sinful? This is a long debate and I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve thought a lot about. In fact, my views about it have...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
** Unfortunately since writing this article, the Expose MInistries website seems to be down. But I’ll leave up this article as some people might find the quotations useful. ** I’ve been reading some articles from the Expose ministries website. Expose...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
One day the thought struck me that in some ways crossdressing seems to stem from patriarchy. Feel free to disagree or push me on this. These are just my musings, and I have doubts myself about what I’m saying. I realize that the whole thesis here is incredibly...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I’ve been reading lately about science. I love learning and I also think it’s good for pastors like me to keep on learning about science, even if some of it goes over my head. I’ve been reflecting on some scientific findings that relate to our...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping crossdressing altogether is a long process, and...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
One thing I believe most of us realize sooner or later, whether ex-crossdressers, or those still stuck in the addiction, is that the addiction goes beyond actual crossdressing. Crossdressers are not only sexually turned on by the image or the thrill of crossdressing,...
by Barnabas | May 12, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse |
I’m sure there are about 20 different links with information like this, but I used the one I found most quickly – here. It’s not my intention to attack this website. Not at all. I don’t know the person who made the site. I can tell that they...
by Barnabas | May 12, 2018 | Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
It can be a good exercise to compared the path and steps required to engage in crossdressing versus the path and steps required to have sexual intimacy with your spouse. We have to be honest. In many ways, crossdressing is the cheaper and easier path to sexual...
by Barnabas | May 10, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
In this post, I am going to talk about how I think crossdressing can easily become idolatry, in the same way that money or other good or neutral things in life can easily become an idol. This is different from me saying that crossdressing is always necessarily...
by Barnabas | May 10, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
In another post, a lengthy conversation began which included discussion about how some transsexuals are men that used to be simply crossdressers. They began crossdressing in their youth and it had a sexual component in the beginning. But as time went on, and they...
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