In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For those of you who are still struggling, it would surely help you to write some of these down and read them daily, or in times of temptation, or after a failure when you need to be built back up by God’s Word.
1 Corinthians 4:5
Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait till the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of men’s hearts. At that time each will receive his praise from God.
This verse is a helpful reminder that nothing we do is really secret. God knows all that we do. Everything we have done will be exposed. This gives us a good reality check with temptations come.
1 Corinthians 6:12-20
12 “Everything is permissible for me”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14 By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” 17But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. 18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
This passage is a strong warning of the danger of sexual sins. We are not meant for sexual immorality. We belong to God. We are supposed to flee from sexual immorality! Sinning sexually hurts ourselves. We house the Holy Spirit. We should think about the Holy Spirit living in us while we crossdress. We are not our own masters. We were bought at a price; the price was Jesus’ death. We are supposed to honor God, our master, with our bodies. That means not doing just what feels good, but doing what he has commanded us to do.
1 Corinthians 9:23-27
23 I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I may share in its blessings. 24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. 25 Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. 26 Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. 27 No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.
This passage is not about crossdressing. But it’s about living the Christian life as if it’s a race. The Christian life is about discipline, and struggle. It’s not going to be simple. But we should run in the Christian life like we would in a race. We run with purpose. We run with a goal in mind. We endure hardship and suffering. We know the good that waits for us at the end of the race. The race is hard and full of sweat and pain. Fighting our crossdressing in the Christian life will be hard and tiring. But we have the goal before us of being with Jesus which gives us the strength to fight and resist.
1 Corinthians 10:1-13
1 For I do not want you to be ignorant of the fact, brothers, that our forefathers were all under the cloud and that they all passed through the sea. 2 They were all baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea. 3 They all ate the same spiritual food 4 and drank the same spiritual drink; for they drank from the spiritual rock that accompanied them, and that rock was Christ. 5Nevertheless, God was not pleased with most of them; their bodies were scattered over the desert.
6 Now these things occurred as examples to keep us from setting our hearts on evil things as they did. 7 Do not be idolaters, as some of them were; as it is written: “The people sat down to eat and drink and got up to indulge in pagan revelry.” 8 We should not commit sexual immorality, as some of them did—and in one day twenty-three thousand of them died. 9 We should not test the Lord, as some of them did—and were killed by snakes. 10 And do not grumble, as some of them did—and were killed by the destroying angel.
11 These things happened to them as examples and were written down as warnings for us, on whom the fulfillment of the ages has come. 12 So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! 13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
This passage looks at the history of Israel as being written to warn us. They committed sexual immorality and were punished for doing so. We should not test the Lord as they did. The things that happened to them were written as examples to us. We should take these stories as a warning, that we are also vulnerable to sin, and we should always stand firm and be careful not to fall. But then we get the wonderful promise of verse 13, that God helps us through temptation. He will not ever let us be tempted in such a way that we won’t have his power to resist it. Yes, at times we will still fail and still be forgiven. But there is always a way out if we wish to honor God and resist that temptation. It’s a beautiful promise.
1 Corinthians 15:34
34 Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God—I say this to your shame.
Paul is not talking about only sexual immorality when he says this. But it applies well to our sexual sin. I find it a powerful verse. We are people who know God. Of all people, we should be the ones who are resisting sin.